Academics and Parental expectations :
Parental expectations can be contrasted with parental aspirations, which typically refer to desires, wishes or goals that parents have formed regarding their children’s future attainment rather than what they realistically expect their children to achieve. To the extent parental aspirations reflect the value parents place on education, they are based on parents’ personal goals as well as community norms about schooling and its role in promoting professional and personal success.
Many times it is observed that intra-individual and school factors are contributing to the formation of parental expectations. In particular, we can say many times the importance of feedback from the school about previous academic performance is playing an important role in shaping parental expectations about their children’s future, along with parental estimates of students’ intellectual ability and parents’ aspirations for children’s achievement.
Setting effective expectations for your child in school can be difficult. It is all about balance and clarity. Here are some key strategies to keep in mind as you implement these goals with your child.
Ensure that your child knows what you expect from him. “I will be disappointed if you earn a C,” or, “I will be proud of you as long as you study each night and do your best,” are strong examples. Do not force your student to guess what she must do to please you.
There are only few hours in the day to study, and you can only push your child so far. Large improvements do not occur overnight, they are instead a process that requires time and effort. Consider identifying milestone goals (a B on this test and an A on the next) that build toward a final achievement. Be respectful of your student’s limits and mindful of what successes are truly possible.
Adjust to changing circumstances…..
In due course of schooling, expectations you set at the beginning of the school year may occasionally change. Extenuating circumstances arise; perhaps a class turns out to be more challenging than your child was expecting. Be aware of these changes, and adjust your expectations accordingly. Keep your student informed of what you expect from him, and speak with him about any difficulties he is facing.
Focus on effort…..
Sometimes your child cannot control the outcome of his efforts. He can only do so much to ensure he is accepted to a specific college or elected class president. Rather than measuring success in terms of outcome, measure certain successes in terms of effort. Make goals about things your child can control. For example, try, “You need to do all your homework and ask your teacher for help after school.”
Expectations are continuous, and they should not suddenly appear or disappear at the end of a grading period. Encourage studying every day, not just right before a test or right after a failing grade. Do not give your child the impression that it is fine to take it easy, only to then get angry when her grades drop.
When your child achieves a goal you set for him, make it clear that you noticed. Tell him that he did well. Demonstrate that there is reward inherent in her efforts, even if that reward is a sentence like, “I’m proud of you,” or, “You did a fantastic job.”
Remember that finding balance can be like striking a moving target, but with time and practice, it is an achievable goal, just like that “X” in algebra or that improvement in completing book reports on time.
To sum up we can say, a planned study time-table, time to time support, complete knowledge about our child’s intellectual ability, his coping skills at school, your inter-personal relationship with your child, flexible attitude are some of the key factors for your child’s academic performance. Keeping these things in mind you can positively direct your child towards academic goals and achievements.